Families touched by such events involving the loss of young people rarely find comfort quickly. Unfortunately, the best the rest of us can offer is words, prayer and support.
For a community as small as Trigg County, we certainly seem to experience more than our fair share of tragedy. However, because of that frequency, I know the families of the four who passed away will have all the support they need and then some.
Equally amazing is that 19 years ago this week, a wreck claimed the lives of seven TCHS students, since then remembered as Seven Friends. It’s a time of year already remembered solemnly in this community.
I have no words of wisdom, no professional advice on the best way to get through something like this. All I can lean on is experience in similar situations, and that experience tells me the best thing to do is to focus on the good times. When thinking about those who left us too early, remember the things about them that made you smile, made you laugh, made you happy.
But we all grieve in our own way. What’s best for me might not be best for you. In the end, only you can decide the best way for you to honor the memory of a lost loved one.
Whatever you decide, I know it won’t be easy. Maybe the best advice I could give would be to know that you aren’t alone. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s shared with someone else. You don’t have to grieve alone.
I know I’ve complained a lot about Facebook and Twitter recently, and while those complaints are still valid, social media proved again this weekend that it can also have a positive effect.
Through most of Saturday, my Facebook feed was filled with well-wishes toward the families and friends of those we lost Saturday. We can argue about whether or not that’s the best way to pass along those feelings, but this is at least one instance where it’s the thought that counts.
There are few instances in which I’d advocate a quick reaction on social media. This might be one of them, provided it’s done correctly. In most instances Saturday, it was.
Saturday’s accident overshadowed an instance in which fast reaction on social media is a bad idea.
Friday, Trigg County High School’s boys basketball team notched a 91-36 win over 5th District rival Livingston Central. A score like that sometimes indicates a coach allowing his or her team to run up the score on a lesser opponent. That wasn’t the case Friday.
Immediately after the game, Livingston’s coach didn’t agree. There’s no proof of it left on Twitter, but he quickly took to the ‘net to pass along some less-than-kind words toward the ‘Cats. He has since removed the comments and apologized.
All of that drama seems less important right now, but it’s still a lesson worth learning.
Justin McGill is executive editor of The Cadiz Record and can be reached by email at firstname.lastname@example.org.